J.D. Harvard Law School ‘73
M.A. Columbia University
B.A. Yale University
Mediator, Judge Pro-Tem
Certified Family Law Specialist
licensed by the State Bar of California
Stan is a member of the
San Diego North County Bar Association.
Licensed to practice in California, Maryland, Washington D.C., & Georgia
2. Copy all account statements and similar financial documents and put them in a secure place where your spouse can’t find them, like a safe deposit box in your name alone. Go back as many years as possible. The originals may disappear.
3. Get your own credit card if you don’t have one already. When you separate, start using it and cancel all the joint cards you had. Also cancel the home equity line of credit if you and your spouse have one.
4.Change your will. If you and your spouse have a family trust, revoke it and do a new one. You don’t want your spouse to get your half of the community property if you die before the divorce is final.
5. If you’ll need temporary spousal support and you’re entitled to it on the numbers, prepare the court papers asking for it when you prepare the petition, and file both at the same time. Don’t wait until after the petition is filed. Ditto for child support and custody. Don’t assume you and your spouse will be able to agree on everything.